Scaling back, doing less and being present more

I started blogging back in 2010 and instantly I was fascinated with how I could get more readers. I would sit in front of the iMac and read and read until I couldn’t see straight anymore.

Eventually, I decided I would start teaching people what I had learned after all I had also read that the best way to learn new stuff was to teach it.

So I started consulting small businesses on how to use social media better and how to harness the power of blogging. Naturally, I discovered people like Pat Flynn and John Lee Dumas making money online from podcasting and blogging.

Fast forward a few years and I decided to give podcasting a crack.

I immediately fell in love.

Podcasting was and probably remains the most fun I have had online in learning how to Tweet. I could connect with people all over the globe, hold their attention for approximately 40 minutes and then influence many others after I had published an episode.

However, in addition to publishing daily podcast episodes I was also trying to accomplish the following things.

  • Be a Dad
  • Be a Husband
  • Consult businesses
  • Establish training programs
  • Be interviewed
  • Develop live events
  • Work full time
  • Study a Masters degree
  • Maintain a healthy fitness regime
  • Eat well

Of those 11 items, I was doing one well, publish a daily episode. The rest fell by the wayside. I was spending every waking moment trying to produce show notes and blog articles, interview guests from the other side of the globe, building courses and training programs so that I could generate more cash because I thought that would make me a better husband and father.

Three weeks ago, I said no.

I said no to 6 of the items on the list. I decided that making a little bit of extra cash on the side wasn’t that big of a deal right now, sure it would be nice but spending the day with my kids exploring nature was better. I wanted to get back to writing for fun because I love it not because I want people to love me.

I told my wife, I’m stopping podcasting for a bit. Just until things settle down. She supported me like she always does which gave me the confidence to actually do it.

So here I am. Back to writing for fun. This September, my wife, kids and I will welcome our fourth child into the world. Not sure what it will be yet but either way it looks like this little daddy blog is going to have to go through a rebrand.

I look forward to getting back to writing for fun and becoming a little bit more involved with my great brothers at Aussie Daddy Bloggers.

Peace.

DIY? More like HSE

It’s no secret to friends and family that I am the worlds worst DIY specialist. I consider myself to be more of a HSE (hire someone else) kind of guy.

Recently, my wife has found herself in an incredibly demanding role at work. So while she’s off slaving away, lining peoples pockets with extra cash, I’m the stay at home Dad.

While I am studying full time, my work load is considerably less than hers so majority of the time I’m responsible for the day-to-day cleaning and finding a fix for anything that is broken.

We’re in a rental so we’re always having things go wrong. But all I can say is, thank god for Google.

Leaking showers in Sydney? No worries call Megasealed.

Hole in the wall in Perth? Call a friend who knows how to fix it.

Stains on carpet in Canberra? Call the carpet cleaners.

Google can help everyone and anyone who is a HSE no matter where you are.

Yeah alright, I know that I should know how to fix all of this stuff, but I don’t. Sure I could go forth and learn how to but at the moment, I don’t have the time and I don’t want to break this house even more!

Anyway, how does one become good at DIY?

Is it something that you’re brought up with? My Dad wasn’t the most handy of handy men either. Sure he taught me how to mow the lawn, change a tyre and check the oil, but we were lucky enough to be able to afford to hire people.

Being the Dad to three girls, I’m sure I should teach them a basic level of handy-ness. How to change a tyre, check the oil in your car, etc etc. Luckily, I still have a few years up my sleeve before my eldest starts driving.

Until then, give me HSE any day.

(This post was sponsored by Megasealed.)