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To sleep or not to sleep, that is the question

Now we’ve welcomed number 4 into the world, number 3 is stepping up her game.

Not on call of duty or snakes and ladders, but in the “I don’t give a f*ck what mum and dad want” game.

Recently we’ve been struggling with bedtime. At 7 o’clock, we activate the bedtime routine. This means, TV off, bath, brush teeth and PJs. It’s a pretty flexible routine if I’m being honest and it usually wraps up at about 7:30/8:00 pm.

Call us lazy or neo-liberal parents, I don’t care, it works. Or at least, it did work.

Of late, Miss 3 has decided that she will now be dictating her bed time and if the last few nights are anything to go off, our little girl likes the late shift.

9 pm rolls around and we’re still fighting the good fight. Curse the person (me) who taught her how to open doors.

“Okay darling, time for bed” I say.

“No” replies Miss 3.

“You’re tired” I remind her.

“No” she asserts.

I try and steamroll her with the old ‘quickly tug and run’ job. No joy. She’s determined to send me to an early grave as I feel my blood pressure start to boil.

Last night was the end of the game. Christine decided it was time to implement drastic action and we put one of those plastic-handle-ball-thing on her side of the door.

VICTORY

Until at 11 pm I heard what sounded like a kick on the door. Yep, sure enough during her fight with the plastic-handle-ball-thing, she’d fallen asleep at the door.

You know that slow-motion door open that you do and hope they are far enough away from the door that you can squeeze in and pick up the child? Yeah, that.

DEFEAT

She’s awake again but dad saves the day with a quick manoeuvre into bed and cuddle to send her back to the land of sheep.

VICTORIOUS ONCE AGAIN

It’s a constant struggle. Miss 3 is by far the hardest of the kids so far with brute strength and a determination to make our life hell.

But hey, all part of the parenting journey right?

When have your kids tested your patience?

Scaling back, doing less and being present more

I started blogging back in 2010 and instantly I was fascinated with how I could get more readers. I would sit in front of the iMac and read and read until I couldn’t see straight anymore.

Eventually, I decided I would start teaching people what I had learned after all I had also read that the best way to learn new stuff was to teach it.

So I started consulting small businesses on how to use social media better and how to harness the power of blogging. Naturally, I discovered people like Pat Flynn and John Lee Dumas making money online from podcasting and blogging.

Fast forward a few years and I decided to give podcasting a crack.

I immediately fell in love.

Podcasting was and probably remains the most fun I have had online in learning how to Tweet. I could connect with people all over the globe, hold their attention for approximately 40 minutes and then influence many others after I had published an episode.

However, in addition to publishing daily podcast episodes I was also trying to accomplish the following things.

  • Be a Dad
  • Be a Husband
  • Consult businesses
  • Establish training programs
  • Be interviewed
  • Develop live events
  • Work full time
  • Study a Masters degree
  • Maintain a healthy fitness regime
  • Eat well

Of those 11 items, I was doing one well, publish a daily episode. The rest fell by the wayside. I was spending every waking moment trying to produce show notes and blog articles, interview guests from the other side of the globe, building courses and training programs so that I could generate more cash because I thought that would make me a better husband and father.

Three weeks ago, I said no.

I said no to 6 of the items on the list. I decided that making a little bit of extra cash on the side wasn’t that big of a deal right now, sure it would be nice but spending the day with my kids exploring nature was better. I wanted to get back to writing for fun because I love it not because I want people to love me.

I told my wife, I’m stopping podcasting for a bit. Just until things settle down. She supported me like she always does which gave me the confidence to actually do it.

So here I am. Back to writing for fun. This September, my wife, kids and I will welcome our fourth child into the world. Not sure what it will be yet but either way it looks like this little daddy blog is going to have to go through a rebrand.

I look forward to getting back to writing for fun and becoming a little bit more involved with my great brothers at Aussie Daddy Bloggers.

Peace.

How much is too much at Christmas?

Year after year, I watch my friends and friends of friends upload pictures of the presents under their trees. Some have a few to cover the ground underneath the tree and some have an entire room filled.Then the talk of how much we spent starts, $300 to $3,000 is from last years discussion. But how much is too much?

We tend to spend between $300 to $500 for all three kids. $500 being we have had some massive requests, like a bike. For us, we like to buy gifts that can be shared, or toys that the girls can sit down and play with each other for at least a month after Christmas.

But I can not understand why you would spend $3,000, sometimes more, on Christmas gifts for your two children? That’s $1,500 each!

I have to wonder about the implications that this would instil in the children. What are their expectations going to be like in later life? But what I also wonder is, what could your child possible “need” that would drive you to spend $3,000 at Christmas.

I grew up going to a Catholic school, where I was taught Christmas was about giving. Now, I am no saint and I could certainly improve in the area of giving but I personally think some people have lost the sight of Christmas. Shouldn’t we focus less on what we teach our children about receiving at Christmas and a little more about giving and sharing the holiday season with our family.

Christmas this year is very special for my family, it is the first Christmas as a married couple and our third daughter’s first Christmas. So maybe this year, we should all focus a little less on how much we spend on presents and focus a little more on how much time we spend with our families.

One of the best Australian Dad Blogs, sharing stories of my trials and tribulations of raising girls in Australia.

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 For the longest time I’ve been searching for one of my passions that I could develop into a business venture. I believe that to be successful you need to be passionate but I don’t have a clue which passion to pursue.

Leadership, motivation, family and the internet (everything on the internet is GREAT), these are a few of my favourite things. For the longest time I’ve been looking for additional projects for my spare time and something that my partner and I can both work on together. But I’ve been on struggle street for ideas on what I/we can do.

I listen to a lot of podcasts to try and help get my creative juices flowing. The Smart Passive Income podcast is one of my favourites. Pat Flynn is an inspiration to thousands of people around the globe. To me, he inspires me to set up a diversified, valuable business that provides benefit to others. I want to better the world, one person at a time.

That is why I started this blog. Not to make money, not to become famous but I thought if I could some how better someone’s life, somewhere, then I would have achieved my mission. Sharing my stories about parenting and being a father is incredibly rewarding and it has led me to meet some great people right around the world.

In particular, the blokes from the group of Australian Dad Bloggers. I originally approached the group in the hope of writing a guest post but what I got was a group of blokes who I can bounce any idea off and blokes who help me better my writing. These blokes are helping me figure out what my passion is and hopefully you’ll be able to see that in my writing in the future, but I’d like to take a minute to shout out to these great guys;

Aussie Daddy Bloggers http://www.daddybloggers.com.au
The Illiterate Infant http://illiterateinfant.com/
Fast Lane Dad http://www.fastlanedad.com
Ydad http://www.ydad.com.au
Mr Palindrome http://www.mrpalindrome.com/
Big Family, Little Income http://www.bigfamilylittleincome.com/
3AM Dad http://3amdad.tumblr.com/
Dad Rites http://www.dadrites.com
Being A Dad http://beingadad.com.au/
Tork’s Blog http://torkona.blogspot.com.au/
TackleNappy http://www.tacklenappy.com
Reservoir Dad http://www.reservoirdad.com
Dad Down Under http://daddownunder.com.au
The 40 Year Old Dad http://www.fortyyearolddad.com.au
A Working Dad Production http://aworkingdadproduction.com/
Kangaroo Dad http://kangaroodad.blogspot.com.au/
Memoirs Of The Mind http://www.memoirsofthemind.com

If you are looking for great stories and posts, have a read of these blogs. Make sure you share this post as much as you can to give love to all these great dads.

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Living away from your family

Living away from your family is tough

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It’s been a long four weeks, but I’ve got through it and managed to see my girls. I talk about how living away from your family can bring up all sorts of emotions and how I dealt with mine.

In case you just came across my blog, I’ve been away from society on a work course for the last four weeks. During this time, I’ve had limited contact with my family, a phone call once a week and an email here and there. I’m not going to lie, it’s been tough.

Now I’ve spent alot of time away from home in the past for work, sometimes up to 6 months at a time. But something was different this time, I found it incredibly harder. Maybe this was because I had promised Miss 7 earlier in the year that I’d be home for her birthday for the first time in about 4 years. Not only was she upset but I too was incredibly emotional and considered pulling the pin on this course but I stayed the course.

I kept reminding myself why I was there. I was there to provide a better life for my family and to better my career. But it wasn’t easy, it was far from it. Dealing with those types of emotions is something that I haven’t dealt with for a long time and I was unsure on how to get through it.

I turned to the Chaplain for some advice, “How can I get through this?”. He suggested I countdown the days left until I see them on paper so I could physically see how long was remaining. I also wrote about my feelings and how much I missed my family. I didn’t have a computer so I used this thing called a notebook?? But it helped. I didn’t want to talk to my class mates about these emotions, I’d just met them and didn’t want to share my personal issues with them just yet.

Emotions are difficult things for us humans to deal with, especially us “manly men”. But it is important, I feel, to deal with them rather than let them build up. I think if I had let mine build up I would have imploded, left this course and potentially ruined my career that I have worked incredibly hard on for the past 5 years.

Have you been in a similar situation and struggled? Join the conservation below and let me know how you’ve got through it.

Starting a blog – Why I started writing about being a dad

Why don’t you start a blog about being a dad

Was the suggestion from my partner who had been blogging about her experiences as a mother to 3 daughters. I’d been struggling to find content for my first blog where I was writing about social media and content marketing. It is a highly competitive field and I am by no means an expert, so starting a daddy blog was a great step for me to better my blogging skills and meet new people online.

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I originally started this blog to just better my writing skills, meet new people and as a hobby but since then I have developed an idea of where I want to lead this blog. From talking about changing crappy nappies and dealing with tantrums, I want to use this blog to help encourage other dads around the world to share their stories of parenthood. Not just the good times of being a dad but also the sh*t times and to let others know that they are not alone on struggle street.

Most of my friends that I have grown up with are yet to venture down the path of parenthood, so naturally I felt like the odd one out when talking about parenting or being a dad. Starting this blog has provided me the gateway to discuss my trials and tribulations that is being a dad and reading others stories along the way has certainly helped.

I’m not trying to say that my way of parenting is better than anyone else’s or vice versa but merely looking for an outlet of my frustration as well as my triumphs as a parent. I enjoy expressing my views and I equally enjoy reading others opinions on similar issues that we face as parents. That is why I feel that any fathers who are some what inclined, should start their own dad blog.

It provides an outlet for your creativity to flow, for your inner writer to express feelings that you probably couldn’t normally. You don’t have to make your blog public like this one but by writing it can help you express your thoughts in a way that you probably haven’t previously. Sharing experiences and learning from others is what it is all about and I encourage you to share your story.

That is why I blog and it is why I will continue to blog about parenthood. I recently asked a new friend, Johnathan Ervine from Dad’s the way I like it why he blogged about fatherhood. He was kind enough to write an entire post on it and it’s a brilliant piece of writing. Johnathan like me was simply looking to get involved in the dad blogging community and contribute to the conversation and by all accounts he has benefited from it to no end.

I want to hear from you, why you blog or why you don’t blog. If you need help starting a blog, ask! There are a number of great dad bloggers out there who are willing to lend a hand and I am more than happy to help anyone out.

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